Saturday, September 1, 2012
Week 2: question 2
There have been a couple different times I have taken a non-process view of communication. I think that there are appropriate times in which a non-process view is necessary, but I do not feel that it should be used all the time, especially if you want the relationship to last. An example of a time I have used a non-process view of communication is with my father, whom I do not speak to anymore, by choice. When I read the section in the book when it talks about when we do not take a process view: when we see something as unchanging. I saw that in my relationship with my father. I knew that no matter what I would do or say our relationship would never be a positive one. Maybe I could have changed the way I thought about our relationship and my doubts. Maybe I could have been a little more optimistic and thought that if I tried hard enough, things could work out. But, then again sometimes there is no way around using a non-process view of communication. It really depends on the situation and what factors are involved.
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After reading through a few of the other postings on here, I decided to leave you a comment because our blogs for this question are very similar. I also wrote briefly about my dad, because when I tried to think about what I viewed in a non-process way, our relationship came to mind immediately. While I still talk to my dad (not regularly), the unfortunate truth surrounding our relationship is that it is unchanging, at best. What has changed outside of our relationship, however, is the way that I view the situation. I have come to the realization that I may have been hoping for a change that would never happen. That being said, I still try to stay open-minded to the idea of a major change, but I remain realistic about the likelihood of this process beginning any time soon...or ever.
ReplyDeleteHello, Ashley!
ReplyDeleteI like your take on this topic, and I found it very insightful. I agree that whether or not the process view is useful depends on the situation. Sometimes one needs to be protective of oneself, and realize when a relationship is unhealthy and unworthy of fixing. I also said that I take the non-process view when I see something as unchanging. This tends to make me shut down, and lose the desire to resolve the conflict. In relationships that are important and healthy, I should be more open to the process of conflict and recognize that there are stages of growth and development. Sometimes I forget to consider that, with the right communication tools, conflicts can be resolved.