Week 2 - Post 3

When reading through chapter two the concept regarding the confrontation avoidance cycle. This cycle reminded me a lot of how my mother is when it comes to my brother.  She would rather not address the situation and let him get away with slacking off or she just let's my step dad deal with the issue and not voice her opinion. According to the book the confrontation avoidance cycle applies to those who do not like conflict or people who tend to be shy.  Another great example is my boyfriend, this is where him and I differ.  I am outspoken and do not mind letting people know when something bothers me. My boyfriend on the other hand tends to hold everything in because he is less outspoken and does not want to deal with conflict.  Along with the confrontation avoidance cycle comes the chilling effect which I think fits perfectly with that cycle.  I think a lot of people worry about the other persons reaction.  Personally I feel that if you have a close enough relationship with a person one should not be concerned with their reaction and just know that your relationship should be strong enough to withstand conflict and if not then maybe that relationship was not as strong as you might have thought.