Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Week 9 - Post 2

The chance of me blowing up is rare.  There are times that I have blown up before, but it takes a lot to get me to that point.  I usually express my anger calmly.  I feel that yelling and blowing up does not do much to help the situation.  Expressing your anger calmly is a way to let people know you are angry, but in a clam way.  I think that this is the best way to express anger because you are not angering the other person by blowing up on them, but you are still expressing your anger to them.  I think that if you were to hold in your anger, one will eventually blow.  I know that this has happened to me before and has been the cause of me blowing up over something so little.  It was because I had held in a lot of my anger and it only took a little thing to set me off at that point.  I feel that they best way in expressing anger is by doing it in a calmly manner, this will be beneficial to everyone involved.   

2 comments:

  1. Hi Ashley,

    Thank you for sharing so much about yourself in your post, it was very enlightening. Yelling usually does not benefit anyone, and if you are able to keep calm during a fight, that is commendable! I find that when you aren't raising your voice and they are, you usually feel like you're being heard more than the person using the higher volume. But you're right, someone who holds in their problems are going to blow up and become extremely resentful. It's a fine balance that we have to find in order to maintain healthy relationships but still letting them know when things have gone awry. Thanks for your post!

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  2. Hey there Ashley! I believe that being able to express the anger in a calmly matter is beneficial to you and for the other party. It is also to talk about the problem as soon as possible because if we drag the issue we will be more prone to explode. For me I know I try to stay calm but sometimes I can’t and I would blow up on the smallest things. I would just have to remind myself when it happens that it is dumb and that being calm will help the problem much more. Normally I would stop myself from talking for a little bit because I want to clear my head and think rationally about how to bring up and discuss the issue. Anyway, good job on the posts this week!!

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