Unfortunately, yes I have lost trust in someone very close to
me, my father. We used to have a great
relationship and naturally I had a lot of trust in my father. But, as the years went on I slowly started
loosing trust in him along with a lot of other feelings. Loosing trust in him was hard for me to
grasp. I couldn’t help how I felt and I
was lost and did not know how to handle the situation. When I realized that I lost respect for my
father I felt confused, sad and angry.
As of today I still have no trust in him or even a relationship and
honestly I am okay with that. I have
accepted it and my life is a lot better without him. We had such a toxic relationship that it was
bringing me down. I hope that maybe one
day he might try to regain his trust, but I do no think that will happen for a
long time.
Oh, Ashley! I hope you don’t mind my offering my most sincere sympathies. I think that one of the hardest relationships to lose is a parent. I’m sure that you made the right decision for you, of course, it’s just that we all deserve a trustworthy relationship with our parents.
ReplyDeleteThat said, my trust in my mother is quite rocky too. It’s not as extreme as your situation but I’m still working on forgiving her for the way she ended things with my father. It was terribly selfish and completely disrespected the 30 plus years of commitment that they shared. While forgiveness is hard, I have accepted what she did and we have a relationship. But I see her in such a different light now, selfish and inconsiderate. She’s so blithe about it too and I can still get frustrated with her. She doesn’t think before she talks and will give my dad random moments of false hope or wondering what she meant by some wistful message. He’ll spend the next week rehashing it and she’ll forget in the next moment.
I too hope that your father can come around again one day and earn your trust again. I can’t imagine that you would give it lightly. For now at least, you have one less toxic thing to bring you down. Best wishes to you!
I hope that you can build that trust back up with your mother. Divorce is hard to deal with and I do not think we will ever be able to understand why our parents split, but its a matter of trusting that they made the best choice. I know its hard, but I hope that you can one day trust your mother again. As you mentioned it is hard to lose a relationship with a parent, but sometimes it is for the best. In my case not talking to my dad was the best choice. My parents split was I was very young so it never really had to do with the divorce it was everything that my father had done after the divorce and me realizing the real reasons why my mom left him. Thank you for your response and again I hope everything works out :)
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