I do not want to say that I have made a lot of false
attributions, but I have made some in my lifetime. I feel that false attributions are normal
because we are all humans. I know that I
have made internal and external attributions about others before. I can think of a recent conflict that
occurred with my mother and I. To make a
long story short, it had to do with my upcoming graduation and my feelings that
my parents did not seem to acknowledge it was rapidly approaching. I made a false attribution and thought that
they were not proud of me and were not planning on having a dinner to
celebrate. I confronted my mother about
it and everything turned out great. They
were planning on doing a dinner for me, they just did not want to bring it up
yet because they know how stressed I am.
My false attribution created a conflict that never needed to occur.
These false attributions are rare, but they do occur. I have had false attributions about my
boyfriend, my friends and even family. I
have also experienced others having false attributions about me. It is something that one cannot avoid. They will happen it; it just depends on how
you deal with these false attributions and how to avoid them in the
future. Everyone needs to learn from
past false attributions and find different ways of confronting people about an
attribution and not let it blow out of proportion.
I think we make false attributions, based off of our emotions. When we let our emotions get in the way of conflict it tends to lead us to assuming the worst. I think when we let our emotions get in the way of conflict, this is where false conflicts occur. False conflicts occurs when at least one personin an interdependent relationships thinks that there is conflict but after talking to the other involved, find there is no conflict(P.219).
ReplyDeleteI also agree with what you said that people need to learn from past false attributions. For example, now if I feel one way I just approach the person before I create false attrbutions in my head.
Hi Ashley,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your honesty in your post, and your insightful look back on your conflict with your parents. We all can assume false things, but I think we're learning that we need to be able to take more time to find if something is true before acting on it. But you're right, it's human nature and we will always stumble but we hopefully learn for the next time. It's very frustrating to me when someone makes a false attribution about me, but it's out of our control. But when we make true attributions we can really learn from it and be able to grow as individuals. We need to not get so in our own heads and make a little issue a grand one when it shouldn't be. Thank you for your post, I enjoyed it!